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Cheating Why Do Men & Women Cheat? - How To Handle A Cheating Partner - How Have I Been Able To Relate? Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Statistics say that 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct and 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. If you have suspicious, warnings or signals of infidelity by your spouse or partner, consider some of the following and be as impartial as possible. With regard to human relationships, couples tend to expect sexual monogamy of each other. If so, then cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. However, there are other divisions of infidelity, which may be emotional. Cheating by thinking of, touching and talking with someone you are attracted to may be equally damaging to one of the parties.
Emotional cheating may be correlated to that of emotional abuse, which to date is treated seriously in a court of law as physical cheating. With the expansion of understanding of other cultures, there is a wide spectrum of what cheating means. When in a committed relationship, the definition of cheating is based on both parties opinions and both parties may redefine their understanding to match the party at an either lower or higher extreme of this definition. Some couples simply believe that cheating constitutes doing anything, whether verbal or physical, that one would not do in front of their significant other. Such examples would include: expressing attraction to another person, electronic communications, kissing, making out, and sexual relations.
Many people consider cheating to be any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, which may or may not include sexual monogamy. For example, in some polyamorous relationships, the concepts of commitment and fidelity do not necessarily hinge on complete sexual or emotional monogamy. Whether polyamorous or monogamous, the boundaries to which people agree vary widely, and sometimes these boundaries evolve within each relationship. Warning Signs of an Unfaithful Partner:Here are some warning signs that your spouse could be cheating on you.
Why Do Men and Women Cheat?Infidelity or extramarital affairs have been extensively studied over the past two decades. Basically, when it comes to infidelity, two related explanations have been given.
The second explanation is more detailed in nature. This explanation ignores the reasons that people "give" for cheating and looks deeper into our human nature. The second explanation explores what it means to be human and asks, "why is being faithful to a spouse so difficult for many people to do?" Probably the best way to think about these two explanations is to view them as two sides of the same coin. Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?When most people get caught cheating, they make promises and vows to never cheat again. Unfortunately, such promises often get broken. The desire to cheat is complicated and it is not solved by feeling sorry or by making promises to change. If you want to change any behavior, you must first determine why that behavior occurred. So, when it comes to infidelity and cheating, what factors led the person to cheat? Was it too much opportunity, was it due to problems in their relationships, was it due to a need for excitement?
On the other hand, many of the factors that influence cheating, may have a genetic component, level of attractiveness, risk taking, sexual desire, making change more difficult. These genetic factors may help explain why some people never stop cheating. If you don't (or can't) change the underlying reasons why the cheating happened in the first place, it will most likely happen again. Typically, the best indicator of our future behavior is our past behavior. How To Handle A Cheating Partner 1. Consider the sincerity of the person who betrayed you when they ask for reconciliation. You cannot go to them, they have to come to you. Once they do, you have to be sure it will not happen again. Unless you know your partner very well and can account for their actions, you will probably not be able to reassure yourself that it was a one-time event. If you can get past all that,move the spotlight onto yourself. 2. Assure yourself you can live with the knowledge of your partner's betrayal in your relationship before you go any further. No one expects you to forget, but you have to be willing to forgive. Otherwise, your relationship may turn into a vicious cycle of mistrust, revenge and unspoken hate. If you say you will forgive, you have to mean it. Nevertheless, before you do, be sure that your partner understands the kind of irreversible damage they have committed. 3. Begin mending the relationship. It's like going back to square one. You have to be sure the conditions that may have caused or allowed for the betrayal are eradicated from your relationship. For example, the person who your partner cheated with has to be out of the picture. No friendship, no once in a while gatherings, no contact whatsoever. 4. Dig deeper. Apart from staring at Internet porn or getting the seven-year itch for greener grass in the neighbor's yard, the root cause of the problem has to be discovered, discussed and dealt with. Things between you and your partner will never be the same again, but with a little work, it can still be good. You have to find common ground, strengthen the love that remains and support one another in every way possible. Celebrity Affairs Jude Law cheated on Sienna Miller.
Halle Berry and her ex-husband Eric Benet, who Berry claimed had a sex addiction.
Brad Pitt allegedly cheated on Jennifer Aniston when he made the film "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" w/ Angelina Jolie.
Sean "Diddy" Combs cheated on long-time girlfriend Kim Porter. How Have I Been Able To Relate? Personally, I have not dealt with a cheater but I do know quite a few. I've seen the cheating first hand. And I've also witnessed the consequences. Both, are not very pretty. My friend Shelly* has been cheating on her boyfriend of two months, for about a month now. I know, pretty sad. She's cheated on him with about five different guys. I know, pretty sick. But, she's a complicated individual. Her whole life she's never really had a male figure in her life, and the only way she knows how to get male attention is to well...flaunt her physical attributes. I know that doesn't make it okay, but that's all she's ever known. I mean, I hate that she does it, but I can't really tell her to stop. She's going to cheat regardless of what I tell her. But, she seems very remorseful afterwards. But, I don't know. I just feel bad for her boyfriend. He's completely oblivious of how many people she's slept with while they've been together. But, I also know it's not my place to tell him. If she has any respect for him, she'll tell him on her own time, or someone else will for her. But, that's her issue, not mine. All I can do is just be there for her when she makes another mistake. I mean, I can't really see why people cheat in the first place. Maybe it's the thrill of not getting caught? I don't know, and I don't really care. I think it's sad, and a waste of time. All I know is that it hurts more when you cheat on someone with someone else than to just break up with them in the first place. Sources & Links On Cheating/Infidelity:
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